How to be a Good Guest in 6 Easy Steps


When we hear of friends getting married in the Philippines, we think of how good the wedding is gonna be. Where is it going to be? Who designed the dresses and who’s handling the event? Will there be any trendy gimmicks at the reception like a flash mob dance? There are so many things that come into mind but one thing that we almost never ask ourselves is how good of a guest can we be. If you’re invited to a wedding, be a darling and follow these 6 tips.

RSVP ASAP

It’s stressful to plan a wedding and added to this stress is not knowing who’ll be sure to come. The couple would really appreciate an accurate head count not only because catering is paid for in plates, but also seating is important to ensure everyone is comfortable and that the reception looks packed. Respond to the invitation as soon as you can. It isn’t embarrassing if you can’t come but it is stressful for the couple if you keep them hanging.

Don’t Add your own Plus One

Mind your invitation. If you are reserved for only one seat, don’t bring a plus 1. Every seat has been thought out by the couple and you bringing additional people could throw the whole party off by one seat. If you really need to be accompanied by someone, get the couple’s permission.

Dress Up but Don’t Stand Out

One thing you can’t do at a wedding is underdress. In the Philippines, it’s becoming a trend to provide a style board or color pallet, so strictly follow it. Look good but don’t overdress, too. When your friends are getting married, you wouldn’t want to be a sore thumb that sticks out because you threw on an obscure outfit.

Cut out on Complaints

Especially if you are someone close to the couple and participated in the planning, you know full well how much time and amount of work went into every detail of the wedding. On the day of the wedding, stop complaining and just enjoy the event. Don’t fuss over minor details like the taste of the food, the sound system, or if you think the decorations are tacky. And you know why? Because…

It’s about the Couple

Every eye and all the love should be on the couple so don’t taint this by putting your needs before the needs of the couple. Don’t make a scene and start an argument out loud. In the same vein, don’t be a killjoy; if you’re asked to participate, don’t hesitate or wait for the couple to beg.

Be Generous and Gracious

Your beloved friend wouldn’t be getting married in the Philippines multiple times so make sure that your participation to their married life counts. Don’t be stingy on the gift. If they have a registry, make sure to check it out so that you know and can get what the couple really needs. If they indicate that a monetary gift is preferred, give what you can. It will surely help them build their future.

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